Hindsight is a beautiful thing. And it’s easy to say ‘oh I wish someone had told me this before I had my baby.’ But in truth, we were probably told all these things from all different people, in different ways. It’s hard to contemplate it before your baby has arrived and you’re in the moment.
So, if you feel this could be useful in the future maybe print it and stick it on the fridge and one day in the not so near future it’ll catch your eye and it’ll be what you need in the moment.
All these tips come from some of my closest friends and its stuff we tell ourselves and each other all the time.
“Change is the only constant… by the time you’ve figured how to solve one thing the baby has moved onto the next trick… so don’t get hung up on each obstacle (i.e. this too shall pass)” – Anna
“The dishes will always be there… precious time with your young baby won’t be” – Anna
“The days are long but the years are short” – Anna
“‘This too shall pass’!!! Flea told me that one and I repeated it like a mantra when times were tough! Everything is a phase so savour the good times and know that the bad/hard times are only temporary!” – Romaine
“‘Trust your instinct, only you know your baby best’ And ‘be kind to yourself’” – Felicity
“Well what amazing advice! All I have left to say is ‘caring for yourself is the same as caring for your children’ think about the oxygen masks on the plane. There’s no point only fretting about them to the detriment of your own health because it shortens the lifespan of your care for them!” – Paola
“Also ‘pick an attitude - a good one’ when I was down, I always found putting a great song on and having a boogie really changed my mood and I gave my son a lot of musicality by playing music and singing to him or just dancing and karaoke-ing in front of him or whilst in the shower! So, music is a great soother and spirit changer.” – Paola
“A general favourite of mine is ‘don’t judge yourself too harshly (or others for that matter) nobody’s perfect!’ Because good judgement comes from bad experience and experience comes from bad judgement. Children are remarkably sturdy and resilient - give yourself a chance to work at being a good parent and fail every now and again. My dad always says that children don’t come with an instruction manual. You kinda have to work it out on your own using your instincts and the good or bad examples you know as a benchmark.” – Paola
And finally, a favourite of mine is: “When you’re up in the middle of the night and feel like you’re the only one up feeding/settling your baby think about the thousands of other women and parents around the world doing the exact same thing as you in that moment and know you are not alone.”
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